Testimonials

On this page you can read what other people say about my work. 

"Elmar created welcoming and friendly environment from the start, and it was easy to work and learn."

Biliana Dearly (Melbourne, Australia)

I have completed tutorials for Level 1 and 2 of Inner Relationship Focusing with Elmar. He created welcoming and friendly environment from the start, and it was easy to work and learn. Elmar has skillfully and flexibly adopted the tutorials to meet my level of knowledge and experience with Focusing, while emphasising and explaining the important, unique aspects of IRF. Elmar is a teacher and a facilitator to wish for - clear, empathic and generous with his knowledge and experience. I am looking forward to continuing working with him and would confidently recommend him to anyone along the journey with Focusing.

"It has been smooth like an enjoyable conversation, and informative as a lecture."

Claudia Arena, Team Leader (Belgium)

I had a tutorial over the phone with Elmar Kruithoff, without knowing more about him that he is a IRF trainer, and I felt immediately connected to his empathic and willingness to follow me where I was, and explaining me the important bits I needed to know. It has been smooth like an enjoyable conversation, and informative as a lecture. And a few days later I found my self mentioning his name as a person I would confidently recommend for a good friend who wants to experience focusing.

"I finally found the missing piece of a complex puzzle"

Dr. Jana Schildt, Politikwissenschaftlerin, Frieden- und Konfliktstudien

I met focusing when finishing my PhD in political sciences, trusting first of all my intellectual capacities. So my reaction when first hearing of it was rather sceptical; how is this supposed to help, and worst of all via skype? However, right from my first session with Elmar it felt that I finally found the missing piece of a complex puzzle. What had often felt like a curse turned out to be a resource in focusing. So far, I had often experienced my sensitivity and body reactions (such as a tight stomach which accompanied me steadily at the end of my PhD) as problems that made life difficult and complicated.
Through the work with Elmar, however, I realised that these indicators, when experienced through focusing, are actually of immense help in developing an inner compass capable of guiding guide me in ways that feel right and good. I very much enjoy working with him in the one-to-one format for focusing lessons and individual sessions. The discussions that grow from this work are enriched by his background in psychology and body therapy. Working with Elmar has stimulated my curiosity in the body as a resource for healing, personal development and approaching everyday life in new ways.

“I received a private focusing session after the Boston bombings...I went from suffering to presence”

Dr. Kerry G. Bennett, MD (Boston, USA)

What a blessing it was to miss class and have tutorials with Elmar.  He is intuitive, insightful and clear. I also was privileged to receive a private focusing session with Elmar after the bombings in Boston.  We both truly felt the power of Inner Relationship Focusing and it's ability to transform.  I went from suffering to presence.  My felt sense was able to come and help me heal. Elmar's ability to be a companion helped me immensely. I recommend Elmar Kruithoff for tutorials or for private Focusing sessions.  He is an amazing teacher and companion.

"My tutorial was a great experience and prepared me well for Level 3"

Susan Brooks (USA)

Elmar Kruithoff is very easy to work with, which got my tutorial experience off to a good start. Very calm, very flexible and gentle. I felt safe right away. The structure of his sessions also feels safe and welcoming. Handouts send prior to the sessions were helpful so that I could have something to look at (since I don't have Skype). Elmar is easy to follow, clear in his directions, paced not too fast, not too slow. I could not improve on what Ann Weiser Cornell said to me when she recommended Elmar: "He does it just the way I like it!" My tutorial was a great experience and prepared me well for Level III. 

"Elmar teaches with clear language and excellent illustrations."

Steve March, Integral Coach and Faculty at New Ventures West (San Francisco)

Elmar's teaching brings the practice of Focusing to life through clear language, excellent illustrations, and lots of heart. His generosity in sharing his wisdom and experience is a gift to us all.

"He listened to me with such a deep level of attention and dedication, adapting the tutorial to my specific needs."

Gabriella Colao, Legal Advisor (Italy)

It has been a great opportunity to take the Inner Relationship sessions with Elmar. He listened to me with such a deep level of attention and dedication, adapting the tutorial to my specific needs.   He was also generous in providing help and insights. It really made an enormous difference with his clear guidance on how to really experience curiosity and understanding of my inner world and how to accompany another person in the process. He gave me a strong impression of authenticity with a friendly but well structured approach to the concept.  I highly recommend him.

"Das Strecken der Seminarinhalte über einen längeren Zeitraum bot mir die Gelegenheit, Focusing mehr und mehr in meinen Alltag zu integrieren"

Birco Braun, Dipl.-Psychologin (Berlin)

Ich danke Elmar Kruithoff für das ganz auf meine Bedürfnisse abgestimmte one-to-one Teleseminar, sein klares und lebendiges Vermitteln relevanter Methoden und seine von Offenheit und Interesse getragene Haltung, die mich einlud, Ja zu allem zu sagen, was sich mir innerlich zeigte. Das Strecken der Seminarinhalte über einen längeren Zeitraum bot mir die Gelegenheit, Focusing mehr und mehr in meinen Alltag zu integrieren und die von Elmar Kruithoff geführten Sitzungen dann einzusetzen, wenn sich Schwellen auftaten oder sensible Themen nach zusätzlichem äußerem Halt und Präsenz verlangten. Die reiche Erfahrung, liebevoll mit allem, was ist in Kontakt zu sein und das Spüren der wie „befreiten“ Energie haben mein Verständnis von Problemen oder Störungen nachhaltig verändert.  

"Elmar führt Dinge, dich ich bewertend wahrnehme, heraus aus dem Trott eingefahrener Betrachtungen"

Claudia Willke, Geschäftsführerin, Chefredakteurin (Hamburg)

Ich habe Elmar über die letzten fünf Jahre in den unterschiedlichsten Settings als Focusing Trainer, Compagnion und Berater erlebt: Einzeln, in der Gruppe, mit erfahrenen Focusern und völligen Anfängern.
Für mich war es immer eine Bereicherung mitzubekommen, wie Elmar Focusing sieht, lehrt und begleitet: sehr genau zuhörend, mit offen formulierten, nie festlegenden Vorschlägen, wie man fragen oder mit bestimmten Teilen, die sich in den Session zeigen, umgehen könnte: Ich schätze Elmars Kreativität und bin immer wieder überrascht, wie er Dinge, dich ich bewertend wahrnehme,  herausführt aus dem Trott eingefahrener Betrachtungen und die life forwad energy  anspricht, die mir neue Erfahrungen und neue Blickweisen ermöglicht. Ich finde Elmar's Focusing-Arbeit klasse. 

“I feel seen and met”

What a delight it is to work with Elmar as I learn Inner Relationship Focusing! His years of focusing practice combine beautifully with his keen intellectual understanding of the process. What is more, Elmar brings expertise in psychology to focusing, which adds further subtlety to his teaching. In Elmar's presence I feel seen and met. Not only do his personal warmth and generosity contribute much to my learning experience, Elmar's encouragement and efficiency as a teacher further ground the process.  I highly recommend him as a focusing teacher and companion.

"Elmar was in tune with my needs in my learning process. This allowed me to feel calm and safe and more able to learn the material."

Maya Dion (Montreal, Canada)

Working with Elmar has been a great pleasure. He is very patient and clear and I always felt like he was in tune with my needs in my learning process. This allowed me to feel calm and safe and more able to learn the material as well as from my own experience. I appreciate the flexibility that he as a teacher, I'm sure you will too.

"Focusing hat bei mir eine spürbare Entwicklung in Gang gebracht."

Dirk Hamann, Referent Business Intelligence (Detmold)

Focusing hat bei mir eine spürbare Entwicklung in Gang gebracht. Ich nehme Forderungen oder Bitten, die an mich herangetragen werden, nicht mehr automatisch als Verpflichtungen wahr. Ich pendele deshalb nicht mehr zwischen Einlenken oder Gereiztheit und kann meinen Gegenüber und mich selbst besser gleichzeitig wahrnehmen. Meine inneren Reaktionen (Ablehnung/Verärgerung/Überraschung/Neugier) kann ich zudem klarer sehen und darauf aufbauend meinem Gegenüber angemessen reagieren.