Is this you?
My clients long for the clarity of knowing what they want and need.
They want to make smart decisions and set clear boundaries; they want to understand themselves and know their values so they can live in integrity in their work and personal lives. They come to me because they don’t know how to deal with the challenges they’re facing, or they’re are stuck in situations that stop them from getting what they really want.
Take a look at the following scenarios.
Do any of these fit how you feel about yourself and your life right now?
You criticize yourself. You put a lot of pressure on yourself. This might show up as seeing yourself in a negative light; or judging yourself as not being good enough, being too sensitive or not fitting in.
You’re always trying to fit in. You feel insecure. This may cause you to censor your own thoughts and feelings because you don’t trust yourself. But you probably haven’t noticed that trying to fit in actually weakens you. It makes you dependent on other people’s judgments and opinions. You lose sight of how unique you are, and that eats away at your motivation and self-confidence.
You really want to change something in yourself or your life, but you don't know how to do it. Instead, you identify with states where you feel helpless, and it’s difficult to get a grasp on what you feel. At the same time you may feel overwhelmed by your emotions.
Although you keep yourself busy, there’s still something missing. You want more clarity and honesty in your life. You'd like to create a space for yourself that’s free of judgments and manipulation, and where you can be authentic.
There’s always conflict in your work or private life. You feel stuck in a role that keeps the conflict alive. But you want to understand the underlying assumptions and hurts so that you can become more professional and at the same time remain open and curious. As a result your relationships with colleagues and superiors improve; you communicate more clearly; you know and get what you want, you take on more responsibility and your career advances.
You’re in transition. You’ve been through a life-changing event; or you’ve achieved a specific goal, like finishing your PhD or reaching a certain salary or position. You’re looking for a new direction and want to take time to really feel it out and make sure it’s exactly right for you. Unexpected questions pop up: “How do I really want to live?”, “What is my purpose and motivation?”, “Who am I?”, “What is the next possible step?”, “What feels right?” And you don’t know the answers.
If one or more of these scenarios is true for you, you’re in the right place. Please read on.
Where are you in your journey back to yourself?
- You’re new to working with yourself. This is the first time a difficult situation has inspired you to look at your own patterns and reactions. Or you realize that other people are not responsible for how you feel. You’d love to take the next step and have more control and responsibility in your life – but you have no idea how to do that on your own.
- You’ve already had good experience with personal development: you’ve tried meditation, mindfulness, bodywork, coaching, or other approaches. They motivated you already. Now you’re wondering if there’s something that fits your needs better and can bring a breath of fresh air to your situation.
- You feel grounded in yourself and know yourself well. Maybe you’ve had in-depth experience with Focusing, mindfulness or meditation already. You know how to look deeply at the situations you’re in, no matter which method you use. And now you’re ready for more support so you can fine-tune where to go next in your life or work.
- You’re a helping professional. In this case, you’re probably interested in adding the Focusing approach and techniques to your professional practice. You’re aware that you learn Focusing by going through the process yourself. And you want to have lots of time to talk about how to integrate what you’re learning into your work with your clients.
Who is most likely to succeed using Focusing?
My clients share many of the following characteristics. If these fit you, you’re likely someone I can help.
- Interested in becoming more responsible and active in your life
- Fascinated with getting to know yourself better
- Open to learning how to patiently and gently listen to what’s going on
- Wanting to make personal development a priority
- Committed to supporting others and being supported because you know you learn best in mutually supportive relationships
- Willing to invest time and money in yourself
- Willing to try out new approaches that expand your knowledge and expertise
If you fit this profile, you can be successful in learning Focusing and using the techniques to overcome your specific challenges.
I've helped many people like you master the skills of Focusing and learn the lessons they need to learn from tough situations.
Now that you know the kind of clients I work with and what my clients need to do to be successful, click this link to learn more about how I work.